Becoming Mo

“Flee all appearances of evil.” I’ve been thinking a lot about what this really means in certain relationships. Does it include staying away from an ex?

There are days when I feel emotionally drained, and on those days, it’s easier to connect with certain exes. Sometimes it’s just a simple “how are you?” or words of encouragement reminding me that I’m smart, strong, and brave. The familiarity is comforting in a way. People say an ex being okay with reconnecting means they must have ulterior motives, but I’m not so sure.

I once spoke with an ex who had hurt me deeply. We talked about the past, and he admitted he never thought I’d be willing to speak to him again. That conversation reminded me of something important: I’ve walked away from God more times than I can count, upset about big and little things. Yet He never pushes me away when I return to talk. If I’m His child, shouldn’t I emulate Him?

I’ve chosen to live in forgiveness – even before the offender asks – not because it’s always easy, but because it keeps my peace and sanity intact. Sometimes I have to consciously say it out loud, like “ABC, I forgive you for XYZ.” Almost like speaking it into the wind helps release the heaviness inside me. I tend to forgive quickly and I don’t dwell on issues for long but that doesn’t mean the process is effortless. For me, forgiveness is a discipline that brings freedom.

Maybe that looks like weakness, but for me, it brings peace. Peace of mind over what I can’t control has always been my priority.

Isn’t life more than holding on to unhealthy fumes within?

I know people say an ex is an ex for a reason, and you should never go back or even entertain friendship. But how do I just turn my back on someone I once thought I’d spend forever with? Am I being naïve – seeing the best in people, even those who hurt me?

Not all exes are monsters. Some genuinely want to rekindle things, others may just want a fling. That’s human nature. But I believe wisdom and distance are safety nets. For me, these friendships exist with healthy boundaries: no enclosed spaces, no unnecessary closeness, and often from opposite sides of the world. We exchange encouragement, business tips, and laughter – and that’s enough.

“Fleeing appearances of evil” may not mean cutting off every person from the past. For me, it means guarding my heart, protecting my peace, and applying wisdom in every interaction. With wisdom and distance, I feel safe.

My intentions are pure. My peace is intact. And that, for me, is enough. 🌹

“Abstain from all appearance of evil.”
‭‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭5‬:‭22‬ ‭KJV‬‬
https://bible.com/bible/1/1th.5.22.KJV

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