Becoming Mo

Faith is meant to anchor us – not trap us.

Yet many of us learned, quietly, to confuse fear with faith.

To mistake endurance for holiness.

To believe that staying – no matter the cost – was proof of character.

So we pray harder.

We wait longer.

We explain away what hurts.

Maybe I just need to pray more.

Maybe they’ll change eventually.

Maybe this suffering has meaning.

Faith does acknowledge seasons of hardship.

But faith does not require perpetual harm.

Even Scripture says, “After you have suffered for a while…”

Not indefinitely.

Not endlessly.

Not until you disappear.

In many cultures – especially deeply religious ones – we over-spiritualize what actually requires boundaries and wisdom. We spiritualize emotional neglect. We spiritualize cycles that never change. We call it patience.

But here’s the truth we avoid:

Both people in the relationship hear the same teachings about love, kindness, and respect.

And when someone continues to hurt you – consistently, knowingly – faith alone is not the missing ingredient.

God is not honored by your silence in the face of harm.

Love is not proven through fear.

And kindness should not be conditional.

Every human being is worthy of care daily and consistently, publicly and privately.

Faith is not meant to teach you how to endure being unloved.

It is meant to guide you toward truth.

And sometimes, the most faithful thing you can do is stop explaining away what your spirit already understands.

This is not rebellion.

This is discernment.

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